When adversity strikes, that’s when you have to be the most calm. Take a step back, stay strong, stay grounded and press on
-LL Cool J
So, you are all prepared for that one big thing you always knew is coming your way, you are excited, brain is super charged with all the big changes coming your way and your body is buoyant with ecstasy. There is not anything in this trillion million thousand galaxies in the universe which would not allow the things to happen the way you wanted. And then it happens! That eeny wheeny tiny things which just didn’t allow the things to happen. Argghh the agony, the crashing of the celestial events and finally the down pour in one’s heart. Oh the feeling of being victimized.
Now, there is nothing one can do about such insignificant bad things happening to one-self. But at this moment we all have that one choice, which is to stay calm and accept the reality a such. Our usual reaction would be to get tensed, frustrated and ultimately get depressed or worse go on an eating spree. Jokes apart, this seriously does have wrong consequences on the long run. But if we were to just to be calm at that very moment and then wonder about the situation, it would definitely do a world of wonders.
This is not some philosophical bragging, but something I am practicing these days which is making realize what a difference it is giving in the my both personal and work life. Without getting in to details, there was a sudden change of plans what was supposed to be an exciting working month, filled with wonderful business plans and travel. But without notice came the news that all these things need to be cancelled. Hopelessly crashed were my feelings on all the plannings, hard efforts and all the good benefits it would reap in the near future. Now I could have been real mad about the whole thing, and would have blamed other things, and would have been in a real bad mood later that day and eventually carrying it over into my personal life as well. But I just kept to my nerves and gave a thought maybe its not bad after all. Everything in this world is transient as such, and I haven’t lost all that precious a thing. Yes, maybe I would have not been able to experience better things in life, but if not now, maybe in the near future. This did have a wonderful effect. Normally, I would react and would start blaming things, and be frustrated about the whole episode. This eventually would bring bad effects in both work and personal life, affecting overall quality of life. However this time, I was able to be in the present moment and already started working on alternatives. Everything went about the usual way and things was still bright and cheerful.
This truly, is one good thing I have been able to combat, when life would give lemons. So when a shocking news comes over, which it will do, take it in the not so shocking way.